Masterbation

Masturbation is when you touch your body and your genitals because it feels good or pleasurable. Both girls and boys masturbate and it's completely natural. 

Some people masturbate a lot while some hardly do it at all. Everyone's different. It's fine to have urges or want to masturbate often especially when you're going through puberty. But there are some factors to keep in mind.

It's important to make sure that it doen't lead to anything that makes someone else feel uncomfortable. For example, masturbating in public when other people are around is not acceptable.

Think if you feel uncomfortable with how often you do it. Do you find it hard to concentrate at school or while doing homework because you want to masturbate? Are you less interested in your hobbies? If it's the case, you could try masturbating slightly less each week until you are only doing it as much as you feel comfortable with.

S E X

It's normal to have lots of questions about sex. Whether you've had sex or not, it's important to find out about contraception and consent so you can make decisions that feel right for you.

consent:

  • Saying yes once doesn't mean giving consent for the future.

  • Consent applies to anything sexual, not just sex.

  • Consent means agreeing without being pressured or scared.

  • One should always ask for consent, even in a relationship.

    Sexual thoughts and feelings

  • You can withdraw your consent at any time – you can change your mind.

ABOUT SEX

It may feel awkward talking about sex sometimes.

One will feel worried about being judged for having sex or not. Or feel silly for not knowing something.

 

Everyone has questions about sex. And you should always be able to ask about sex without being embarrassed.

 

If you're unsure about sex, consent or how to get support, we've always here for you!

YOU'RE READY?

One may worry about being left out, not being  as mature or like one needs to have sex to prove that one cares about someone. Or people around you might be making you feel like you should have sex.

 

The only person who can decide if you're ready is you. If you're thinking about having sex, you should ask yourself:

  • do I have contraception and know about safe sex?

  • can I talk to my partner about having sex?

  • do I feel comfortable with having sex?

  • will my partner support me if I don't have sex?

  • will I feel less mature if I don't have sex?

If your answer is "NO" to any of those questions, you are not ready to have sex. You should never feel pressured into doing something sexual until and unless you're ready and you should not put yourself at risk under any circamstances.